So, my lovely fellow parents, after a long hiatus, we hope that you had a wonderful holiday season, joyous Christmas, and the happiest of New Year’s. In doing my end of year inventory and planning for the year, I started thinking about the anti-resolution kick that everyone hears regularly. You hear this from almost everyone that no one ever sticks to a new year’s resolution. It’s become a joke to people, and yet, so many people still read and follow what self-improvement authors and gurus like Anthony Robbins, who tell you to write down your goals. I wanted to look at this disconnect and how it applies to parents and their kids.
1. Always follow through on what you say
This is especially true for parents, as kids are the first to take advantage when an adult does not follow through. If you say there is a consequence for a behavior, then make sure to follow through with that. If you have a plan you are trying to keep, then you need to keep to that plan, and not let distractions keep you from seeing a plan through. We all get distracted, but being able to always follow through is a great life-trait for your kids to learn from you.
2. Write things down
When it comes to goal setting, there is a reason that people who are good at planning, keeping schedules and writing things down tend to accomplish their goals more often than those that fly by the seat of their pants more. There is no problem with either approach, but writing things down tends to make you more accountable to something. Again, this is a skill for kids to learn from their parents, and writing things down for your kids to do tends to keep them doing those things you need.
3. The beginning of a new year is awesome
It is the perfect time to re-evaluate where you are, where you are heading, and the steps you need to take to keep walking that line and reaching that destination. Resolutions can be an awesome way to write things down that you want your family to accomplish this year. Reading more, taking more walks, hug each other more often…what is wrong with these resolutions?
Can you guys think of more? Remember, there is technically no difference between goals and resolutions. So why is it so easy to dismiss the resolution but as a culture we value goal-setting and goal-accomplishment?